Woman Kicks Sister Out of Her Home After Letting Her Stay During Hurricane, Claiming Sister’s Guilt Game and Entitlement Have Gone Too Far

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Oct 15, 2024 9:00 PM EDT

This hurricane season has left (and still leaves) all of us in a state of shock, while also leaving many people without their homes. As people evacuated their homes, they had to rely on friends and family to open their houses for them and provide them with a roof over their heads.

While it is a traumatic experience, and nobody wants to be in the shoes of someone who just lost their home, it is important to remember that when people open their homes for you, you are a guest in their safe space and you should act accordingly. Be grateful for the people you have in your life, and for the help they are willing to offer. Acting entitled and guilt-tripping your friends and family will not get you far.

The sisterly dispute in this Reddit story happened after OP (original poster) opened her home for her evacuated sister. However, instead of acting grateful for all the help, the sister did not stop complaining about the house rules OP wanted her to keep. Eventually, the situation got so bad, that OP ended up kicking her sister out.

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    Yesterday, I reached my absolute limit with it when my toddler got into my cleaning closet. Luckily all he got ahold of was the broom. I admit, I yelled at my sister. She started yelling back about losing everything. I yelled it wasn't my fault it happened and told her she needed to find somewhere else to stay.
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    AITA for telling my sister and her family that they have to stay somewhere else even tho they lost everything?
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    My(30f) sister(26f) lost everything. They live in North Carolina in one of the small towns that were hit. I will not say which one for privacy. Luckily they were not home when it happened. Instead, they were
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    off in Illinois for my wedding. They have been staying with me for around 3 weeks now. Both my sister and myself have children. She has a 5f,3f, 1m. I have a 6 year old and a 2 year old
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    who gets into everying. I have absolutely everything locked. Cabinets, door handles, appliances, outlit covers, you name it.. This is 100% needed with my toddler.
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    Since day 1 of my sister being here, she has been complaining about all of the locks. She thinks they are a pain and will constantly leave everything unlocked just so she doesn't have to deal with it.
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    My toddler, and hers, have been getting into absolutely everything. It's dangerous for them, it's a mess and quite frankly, it s ks.
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    I have tried talking to her about it but now, she's trying to play the guilt game because she lost everything and we said she could stay here. I get it, it ks. It's ≤ absolutely devastating to have.
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    nothing to go home to. She hasn't even fully processed it yet, but this is still my home. Yesterday, I reached my absolute limit with it when my toddler got
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    into my cleaning closet. Luckily all he got ahold of was the broom. I admit, I yelled at my sister. She started yelling back about losing everything. I yelled it wasn't my fault it happened and told her she needed to find somewhere else to stay.
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    I feel awful now. She's still here while she figures something out but we haven't said a word to each other since. AITA?.
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    Old-Soft-7666 • 13h ago • NTA. You're providing a safe space for both of your families, and your home should still feel like your own. It's understandable that your sister is going through a rough time, but safety for the kids is non-
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    negotiable. Boundaries are important, especially when it comes to keeping the kids out of harm's way. You've tried to be understanding, but it's okay to protect your space and sanity too. Hopefully, with some time and communication, things will settle down
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    puntacana24 • 12h ago • Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] NTA - You provided shelter for her and her family in her time of need, and she has the audacity to complain about how you let her live in your own house? Her losing her own home does not give her the
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    right to criticize where you live and your decisions in your own home, especially after you are granting her shelter. If your house and your rules aren't good enough for her, maybe she should find someplace else to stay.
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    Auntie-Mam69 • 12h ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [34] NTA. I am in NC. 12 days without power, water isn't even on the horizon. I have loads of empathy here. But this is two different issues. Do you feel sorry for your sister? Yes. Will you tolerate your toddler being poisoned by cleaning products because she's too stubborn to use the child locks? No.
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    Waste Worker6122 • 12h ago • Enthusiast [7] Tragic situation. That said, your sister and her family are guests in your house and need to respect your rules. If she can't do that and the tension is too great then she needs to find somewhere more suitable to live. NTA because your rules are quite reasonable imo and she purposely chooses to ignore them.
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    eowynsheiress • 12h ago Aficionado [12] NTA. Your child's safety is at risk. I am so very sorry for your sister, but the current situation is not sustainable. Offer to help her talk to her insurance(s) and start looking for other relief efforts she would qualify for. But she still needs to get out to a hotel/apartment/other family member. Best wishes for you all.
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    VeryFluffy 12h ago Enthusiast [5] NTA. Frankly, I am astounded at how many times we see folks here who are relying on friends or family for somewhere to stay, due to unfortunate circumstances, and yet can't be bothered to stick to a few sensible rules and boundaries.
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    Aggressive_Cattle320 • 12h ago • Partassipant [1] NTA. When your sister pulls the "we've lost everything", tell her that her family is all safe, so she should count her blessings. And that your childproofing of your home is to prevent FURTHER loss of harm to what IS most precious..the children.
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    You were kind enough to let her stay in your home, and with young children herself, I'm frankly amazed that she isn't more concerned with harm coming to them. We had every gadget for cabinets, doors, stairs, faucets, outlets, cords, etc. That is what parents are supposed to do.
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    Tell her that while you feel empathy for them and their situation, you will not put the safety of the children and their well being at risk. You have nothing to feel sorry or guilty for. It is your home, and she's not being very respectful or grateful for the help you offered to her family.
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